Rule #21

How would you like to have more satisfying work and personal relationships? More peaceful environments? Well there is a small act, that when done correctly, will not only change your environment, but will make you feel good in the process. Rule #21 is COMPLEMENT. Now, I know you may be thinking that something like complement is hardly worthy of its own rule, but I've found this very simple action to be very powerful. A complement sets the tone for the rest of the conversation or interaction. It is usually unexpected and makes the recipient feel good. The unexpected perk is how the reaction of people you complement will make you feel.

Now I used the phase "when done correctly" because it is very easy to have a complement fall flat if not genuine. Have you ever had the experience of walking into an establishment and a salesperson comes up to you and throws a complement at you that you just know is false? It becomes counter productive, right? Causes you to distrust the person. Now imagine that same establishment, the salesperson comes up to you, you exchange some pleasantries and the salesperson complements you and you can tell he/she means it. You now feel comfortable, much more trusting and probably more likely to use that person's services. Same goes for your social and personal relationships. You are more likely to trust a person who complements genuinely.

You can always find something to complement someone on. There is always something you will find appealing, inspiring, entertaining about the person you are with. Don't force it, a reason to complement will surface and when it does, find the right moment. You will be amazed at the reaction. Genuine complements feel good, they just do...both to the receiver and to the giver. Be generous with your complements, you'll be rewarded with smiles...

Rule #1 - I AM RESPONSIBLE
Rule #2 - ALWAYS BE KIND
Rule #3 - DON'T HOLD A GRUDGE
Rule #4 - DO THE RIGHT THING
Rule #5 - SMILE
Rule #6 - BE GOOD TO YOURSELF
Rule #7 - SAY I LOVE YOU
Rule #8 - BE POSITIVE
Rule #9 - LAUGH
Rule #10 - DON'T JUDGE
Rule #11 - SET GOALS
Rule #12 - SING AND DANCE
Rule #13 - MEDITATE
Rule #14 - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Rule #15 - BE HONEST
Rule #16 - SAY I'M SORRY
Rule #17 - BE GENUINE
Rule #18 - PAY ATTENTION
Rule #19 - TRUST YOUR GUT
Rule #20 - CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS
Rule #21 - COMPLEMENT