Feel Better

What is it that you want in life? A new car? A new house? Luxurious vacations? A relationship? A better figure? Whatever it is, I believe there's only one reason you want something more and that's because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. Think about it...the truth is, at the root of every want is the desire to feel better. So what if we worked towards that "feel better" feeling, even before we got the "want"? What if our goal each morning was to "feel good today"? Imagine how productive your day would be if you set out each morning to feel good. Now, I know, you're thinking that you would rather wait until you have the new car to feel better...and I get that, but would it hurt to strive for that feel better feeling, even before actually having it? Of course not! And yet, it might just help...how much more satisfying would your days be? How much more satisfying would your interactions with people be? How much happier would your life be?

So here's what I propose...instead of noticing the things you want and don't have...how about focusing on the expectation of the things you want. It's a subtle change in the way you look at things, but it is the difference that will change your life. This will take some practice...when you sit behind the wheel of your old clunker and the car has a hard time starting, right now you probably curse the car and the circumstances that prevent you from getting a new one. Instead, try looking forward to how great it will be when you get a new car. It will start up every morning without a problem, it will be shiny and new looking, comfortable interior with no holes in the seats... The truth is, whether you curse your circumstances or anticipate new ones, you are where you are. Why not feel better right here, right now? It certainly couldn't hurt, and it might just make your life a little easier.